Many people want to help make the world a better place, but don’t know where to start. What if there was a personal thing you could do to help that happen? You probably don’t associate self-forgiveness with worldwide evolution, but I’d like to suggest they are highly intertwined.
02:34 – The game metaphor for LIFE
06:01 – Why the notion of karma or sin redemption keeps you stuck
15:10 – What’s really at the core of procrastination
19:05 – Why it’s so crucial to examine how you interpreted past mistakes
22:00 – Writing a letter between to past and future selves
29:15 – The most powerful tool in your mind to hone and sharpen
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Many people are concerned about all the troubles in the world, but don’t feel like they alone can make much difference. What if there was something you could do that would help humanity evolve beyond a lot of the issues we face? Now, you probably don’t associate self-forgiveness with worldwide evolution, but I’d like to suggest they are highly intertwined. Hi, I’m Carla Rieger and this is the Golden Age Timeline podcast.
For example, many people give up on important goals too easily when obstacles hit and then judge themselves for it. Whether it’s a personal growth goal like better eating habits, a relationship goal like getting along better with your partner, a career goal like building a more profitable business, or any number of other goals… it’s common for people to get stuck, make mistakes, fail and then judge themselves for lack of success.
I’d like to suggest that’s because people secretly [or not so secretly] lack a belief in themselves. They don’t believe they have the capacity, the resources or the worthiness to succeed. And they may just call themselves lazy, a procrastinator, too distracted, but what’s really going on is this lack of belief. And I would like to suggest that the way to break free from that is to create a regular practice of learning from past failures so you can forgive yourself and others. When you do this, I believe, it helps not just you but all of humanity evolve. It’s like cutting the cords that hold a helium balloon on the ground. It will naturally rise, you will naturally rise, and humanity will naturally ascend. This is one of the most powerful coaching tools I’ve ever used with people and is a theme in our non-fiction book MindStory Inner Coach and in my fiction book, Helio Tropez. In this episode we’ll explore one powerful method to do that.
Now there is the whole notion that if you do harm to another or another person does harm to you that you build up bad Karma that must be paid back, or there’s a sin that be must repented, or any other number of beliefs around mistakes, failures, bad judgment, bad behaviour we have been involved in during our lives… as we all have to one degree or another.
And I’d like to suggest that it might help to ‘unpack’ those notions and relook at them from a different perspective. If you still like and want those notions after exploring them, great. No problem. But sometimes we just pick these things up as children, without the ability to employ critical thinking at the time. Then we live by them for the rest of our lives, unless we consciously choose to change them.
In the novel, Helio Tropez, one theme is the idea that humans who are living on the surface of the earth have chosen to be part of this 3rd density or 3D inverted matrix. It’s like signing up for a virtual reality game that’s full of polarity, opposition, challenges, dangers, enslavement of the mind. And as a player of the game you are tasked with the adventure of rising above the polarity towards a more unified living experience, or overcoming the oppositions, and learning from the challenges, outwitting the dangers, and your game handicap is mind enslavement and amnesia that you’re even in a game to begin with.
From a soul perspective, by going on the adventure, you hope to grow as a person, and then ascend higher densities, or higher frequency realities… a place where it’s far easier, less dense… harmonious, free, prosperous, peaceful, or more of all the good things. Now, some people don’t want to move up to a world like that. They want to still stay in the inverted game, the intense challenges…which is totally fine. It’s all what a person chooses at the soul level.
But let’s just say you were ready for a new, higher level. And if you’re listening to something like this, chances are you fit into that category. So, if the game worked like that, you could look at mistakes or bad deeds made in the 3D inverted matrix as ways you learn, and the more you learned, the more likely you’d ascend to a higher frequency reality as a reward.
So, using this game theory, something like Karma would be like a ‘chip or peg’ you earn or lose. You use the pegs during the game, but once you finish the game, the pegs or lack of pegs mean nothing. You gain karma points (pegs) by doing good deeds, and lose them by doing bad deeds. But say you believe in reincarnation, and you decide as a soul, that you must reincarnate because you owe Karma to someone or someone owes Karma to you. So, you keep finishing a game in the 3D virtual reality game, and then you start again, and keep looping, playing over and over again. That’s because you’re not perfect yet and you keep making mistakes, big or small, so they you feel like you have to go back and keep playing.
But what if, as I said, Karma is only a game device like pegs. For example, I remember this game I had as a kid called LIFE. And you had this car that you would try to fill up with other people like a spouse and kids represented by the pegs, and that’s a sign you were winning. But once the game was over, whether you had a car full of pegs or not, those pegs would be tossed back in the box and not mean anything. Because the whole point was to just have a device to show you learned and grew from an experience, not whether you were a good or bad person.
Or same with the idea of sinning and going to hell, or having to seek forgiveness outside yourself. The whole idea of karma and the sin/redemption thing, doesn’t seem to include learning from mistakes. It’s like that old adage – Good decisions come from experience. But experience comes from making bad decisions. So wisdom is really the currency of growth not karma or the sin/redemption cycle. Because how will you learn? So somehow the idea of karma or sin got warped to mean something that actually stopped the thing it was supposed to be helping you do.
So for example, say you steal from someone and get away with it, but then someone steals from you and gets away with it. One way of looking at it is that you attracted being stolen from as bad karma. Does that really help you stop stealing? It might make you think twice about doing it again, because you experience what it’s like to be on the receiving end. But ONLY if you choose to look at it that way, if you see it as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to act with more wisdom in the world…great. But usually people only do that if they forgive themselves FIRST.
If they don’t they tend to repeat the mistake or the bad action. Empathy for another often comes because of self-love, self-forgiveness FIRST. You can’t care about another if you don’t care about yourself first. Like the career criminal who steals for a living probably does get stolen from, because those are the types of people they hang around with. Does that stop that person if there is underlying low self worth? Because that low self worth usually means the person isn’t open to learning, to gaining wisdom. They think “I’m just a bad person and bad people do bad things.” It’s their inner MindStory that they live by. They’ve cast themselves as the theif and thieves have a script they must play out. They may have a justification like they are just trying to survive, or they see the world as dog eat dog. They’ve lost connection to their humanity, to their empathy, so if karma bites them back, it doesn’t make them wiser.
Same with committing a sin, and then, say, confessing it, and then an authority figure absolves them. Does that process involve learning from it? Sometimes, but more often than not it’s a like a Get Out of Jail Free card and the person just does it again. The only way out of the cycle might be to stop playing the karma/sin game, and play the ascension game instead.
Another more common example of where a lack of self forgiveness gets in the way is where you feel you let yourself down.
It’s hard to move forward, taking actions on important goals if you don’t trust yourself to follow through. And the truth is most of us have sets goals, then failed to finish or even start them. In fact, most people do that most of the time. So, if you’ve ever struggled with this, its common but not necessary. If you have the tools to break out of this self sabotage habit, you’ll be far ahead of the average person.
Say you’re thinking about a year from now and what you want to accomplish, you’re really telling a mindstory to your present day self that will be the reality of your future self. You are, in essence, creating a new character who is your future on a possible new timeline.
Now you may think that’s strange. But think about it. The future doesn’t actually exist except in your mind. And you go to your future self often. Say you’re lying in bed imagining yourself eating something you like for breakfast. Or while thinking about a goal you want to achieve like losing weight, you imagine yourself thinner. You go into a future self who is thinner. Or, if you want to achieve higher income this year, you imagine yourself as a future self with a bigger bank account.
In other words, it’s not a weird woo-woo thing, it is a very practical thinking process that everybody utilizes as a human because we naturally plan for our future.
Some of us do it more than others. So, an important concept to grasp is that you have a relationship with this future self that is based on the thoughts and imaginings that involve that future self. Sometimes our relationship with this future self is good and empowering, sometimes is disempowering, and we don’t even realize it.
So how you think about yourself past, present or future determines how you feel about yourself. And how you feel determines what you do, which determines your results. In other words, if you think you failed in your business in some way in the past, you will feel a lack of confidence when you imagine your ‘future self’ trying something again. So you will avoid taking bold actions and so you won’t find the success you want in business. Much of this is happening below your awareness. You might just think you’re lazy, or disorganized or just too busy, but really it all starts with what you think about yourself, what meaning you give to the circumstances you find yourself in.
That is the whole concept behind our AVARA Model that we teach in the book MindStory Inner Coach, which you can get at GoldenAgeTimeline.com/SHOP. So that’s why we focus so much on the MEANING you give to situations and how you think about yourself because once you can change that — it creates a domino effect towards changing feelings, actions and results.
So, between Dave and I we have coached thousands of people especially those building online coaching businesses or those in some kind of sales role. We often see similar circumstances happen to people, but what’s really interesting is the meaning they give the situation. For example, two people vow to increase their income as part of their New year’s Resolution. One way to do that is to finally launch that online product. They meant to do it last year, but life got in the way.
So both do it. One person launches the online product, and spends more than she makes in getting it out there. The meaning she gives to the situation is that she is a failure. It proves she is unworthy of success, that she is incapable as a business person. So, she feels defeated, stops doing any more launches, so loses income and that reinforces her interpretation that she is a failure. So, she doesn’t get to realize her New Year’s Resolution and another year goes by.
Another person in a very similar situation gives a different meaning. She goes into it deciding she will have her own back no matter what. When she loses money, instead of beating herself up, she forgives herself for any mistakes. This act of self compassion allows her brain to absorb the wisdom and learning, which she can then use to get better. She decides that trying the launch alone proves she is worthy of success, that she is capable as a business person because she takes these kinds of risks to grow. So, she feels encouraged, which leads to the action of trying another launch implementing what she learned. Eventually some of her launches pay off, so she gains income and that reinforces the meaning of being a success. In the end, she does get to realize her New Year’s Resolution that year.
Now, of course that’s common wisdom to view failures as feedback on the way to success. But it’s one thing to share it as a platitude and quite another to really analyze and deconstruct your own thinking processes that lead to results or lack of results in your life.
Now those are two extreme responses. Most people go back and forth on the scale of positive to negative interpretation of failures, many times over. But where do you land, which perspective wins in terms of driving feelings, actions and results? That’s why it’s so crucial to stop and really look at the meaning you give to situations. Much of it happens at a subconscious level. The only symptoms are things like procrastination versus motivation. Tension headache versus high energy. Worry in the morning versus jumping out of bed ready to take the day by storm.
We often forget that these meanings are all arbitrary. We think that the thought “I am a failure” is you just giving the facts of life, but it’s just simply an opinion. It’s just one of many ways you could look at any one situation. Give yourself the freedom of changing your mind, changing the meaning, changing the interpretation.
Now you might say that’s easier said than done. We do get caught up in well-worn train tracks of thinking. It is easier to think a certain way because you’re well practiced at it. Many of us were taught very young that making mistakes equals you are a failure as a person. When you’re young you don’t have the reasoning ability to go…wait a minute…that doesn’t make any sense. But you do now as an adult.
And if you really look at the cost to not changing that train track of repetitive thinking, you’ll buck up and allow some cognitive dissonance to happen. By that I mean, you are willing to go through the discomfort of changing the train tracks. So, its effortful at first like when you first started driving a car, but then it becomes second nature. You just need a way to keep focused regularly. Repetition is king. That’s why we offer the MindStory Neuro-blueprint audios to help people with that. More info on that at MindStoryAcademy.com or in the shownotes.
So let’s expand your relationship with your future self. Imagine him or her as a someone, like a friend you really care about. Now, it is you, but we’re going to use the future you versus the present day you as separate just so we can start to view that relationship.
One of the suggestions that I teach and I’ve taught for years is that you write letters to yourself. You write a letter from your future self to yourself now. You write a letter from your present self to your future self. And a lot of times people will say that’s weird, that’s hard, and resist it. But once you do it, you realize how fun it is, and how powerful it is.
So I have them start with writing a letter first from their future self to their past self. Now, that’s often easier. For example you write a letter to your 18-year-old self, say just as you’re leaving high school, and tell them what to do. Like don’t go to university, travel instead. Or don’t give up guitar. Or don’t date that guy, or don’t do that dare that gets you arrested, or whatever it is that happened in your past. We’re pretty good at giving advice to our past selves.
And you can often get into helping your younger self calm down about things he or she took so seriously. Your grades don’t really matter, what that group of friends think really doesn’t matter. That guy you like, you’re never going to think about him again after you leave home. So that’s a great way to start. Write a letter to your past self.
A second way to do it is to imagine yourself when you’re, say, 18, writing a letter to you now at whatever age you’re at. What are her hopes and dreams for her future life? That’s kind of trippy. That can be very revealing, because sometimes we had dreams we forgot about, that we shelved, because we tried and failed, didn’t have our own back, beat ourselves up, so never tried again. But there it is still burning, but burning brighter in the 18 year old who hasn’t been beaten down by the inevitable obstacles of life. For example, when I was 18 I wanted to travel the world. But my parents talked me into going to university. When I wrote a letter to myself from the age of 18 to the age of 41, I remembered that and decided to spend many years after that finally travelling the world.
Then a third way to do it is to write a letter from the age you are now to an age in the future, say 10 years from now. I did that experiment about 10 years ago and am now realizing what my past self wanted, in many ways. In other words, I am my future self to myself 10 years ago. You know that old saying, People tend to overestimate what can be done in one year and to underestimate what can be done in ten years. Each year in January I would list what I want to accomplish that year, and many of the things wouldn’t have come to pass a year later. But I kept track of that list each year since 2010, and I have accomplished 80% of that list now. About 10%, I’m glad never came to pass. Each of those things I accomplished I can say with certainty that I decided to have my own back going forward with the inevitable failures I would have to face to get there. I had to do self forgiveness many times over. The last 10% I can say that I did not have my own back going forward with the inevitable failures I had to face to get there. I did not forgive myself, so gave up. There it was in black and white.
So, the fourth way to do it is to ask your future self to write to you now. I’ve recently done that with my future self 10 years from now. So try that yourself. What is the month and year 10 years from now when you’re listening to this? I know sometimes people freak out thinking about how old they’ll be. But your 18-year-old never dreamed they’d be as old as you are now, right? Time marches on and it’s never nearly as scary when you get there. If you create a relationship with that future self now…it has a far higher chance of getting realized than if you don’t create a relationship.
If you think this is weird, or have resistance, that’s ok. I challenge you to just give it a try for 15 minutes. This is one of the most practical and beneficial things that you can do when it comes to really creating goals that can come to pass.
So, say you’re 50 years old now. So in 2032 you’ll be 60. What do you want her to know, see, do, understand, take action on, stop doing, let go of, or realize? See what you can learn. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. How you treat yourself in any timeline, how you talk to yourself, how you think about yourself, is by far the most important relationship in your life…and the biggest indicator of how much fulfillment and success you’ll have.
People will tell you that paying attention to yourself and working on yourself is self-indulgent. They are wrong. The unexamined life is not worth living as the old saying goes. It think it’s one of the main reasons we’re here. Not to navel gaze constantly, but to go back and forth between interacting in the world and then really meditating on, examining your experiences and deciding how you want to interpret them.
And if you’re in any kind of influencing role, doing any kind of sales, coaching, speaking, educating, training, consulting, the better a person you are, the better your results. Period. We have to start with ourselves. Your imagination, which is the tool that you will be using to practice this exercise is the most important tool for you to hone, because it determines your vision, which determines what your life becomes.
You cannot give more of yourself if there’s nothing of you to give because you’re not paying attention to yourself. All that paying attention to my self and my growth I am so grateful for now. Because my past self for created this great life that I’m currently living. I listened to my own advice, and I took action. I’m so thankful and that relationship is so good because of it. And if I didn’t take some of that advice and wish I did, then I have my own back. I forgive myself so I can learn from it.
I say all this because some of us have bad relationships with our past selves and our future selves. We’re beating ourselves up for the things we did in the past and we’re beating ourselves up for who we are now, and we’re beating ourselves up for our future because we don’t believe we’ll amount to anything.
But if you have an amazing relationship with yourself in all the timelines, so to speak, you can create an amazing life for yourself. My past self set me straight. She started a business that’s fulfilling, she lost the weight, she quit drinking, she took care of her health, exercised and ate a good diet…so now I have a great life. I don’t have to deal with the problems I would have if I didn’t take her advice.
Of course, it’s often not just instant gratification. It’s the long game. But long games often pay off in a way that short games never can. The best gifts that you have to give your future self are often arduous, or boring right now..but great in the long term. So being responsible with my health, managing money, keeping up with self growth, resting, pacing myself, working every day on big complex projects like an on-going course, a book or a marketing platform. All of those things personally that I’m doing for myself is because I love myself in the future. In the future, I will be so delighted that I did all the arduous, boring things.
One of the best ways of doing this is to think about your future self as someone you love and care about. I say that because many people do to their future selves what they would never do to their best friends. For example, saying that we were going to do something and then just not show up. We would never just blow them off, and ignore that agreement. We would at least apologize, ask for forgiveness and re-negotiate the agreement because circumstances change. But often we just make an agreement with ourselves and then blow it off. Think about how your future self, your good friend, your cherished relationship feels about that?
What many people do is think – well that’s 10 years from now – that is a long time way. It won’t really mater. But it does at the profoundest of levels.
So try writing these letters to build that relationship, to build the love and commitment. Then these small regular actions that create this future self, won’t be from a sense of obligation or that you have to. It will be second nature because you have practiced that skill within yourself, that relationship is strong and so worth it.
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