Ever notice that sometimes the thoughts you think aren’t constructive? In this episode, we’ll look at 4 steps to discerning your thoughts and the subsequent emotions they create, so you can create the life you want versus a life you don’t want.
8:00 – Why it’s so important to be able to change your thoughts at will
11:35 – The different ways people suppress thoughts and emotions
14:40 – The 4-step process to properly digest emotions and turn them into fuel
18:45 – The difference between true thoughts and false thoughts
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Ever notice that sometimes the thoughts you think aren’t constructive? If not with yourself, maybe you’ve seen others catastrophize about things that are unlikely to happen. The thing I want to focus on here is to differentiate between thinking your thoughts and believing your thoughts. Those who can make that distinction tend to have far more successful and peaceful lives than those who don’t.
For example, say you are getting caught up in negative emotions like worrying, overwhelm, regret, confusion or hopelessness. It might be because there are legitimate things you’re having to deal with and that’s a natural human response. But, it could also be because you’re believing some thoughts that you’re thinking… when they aren’t really true. In this episode we’ll look at 4 steps to break free of feeling like you have to believe all your thoughts. Once you do that, you can choose which thoughts you want, which will lead to other kinds of emotions and actions, and that will help manifest the life and the world you truly desire… this Golden Age I think is possible…in part through changing how we think. Hi, I’m Carla Rieger and you’re listening to the Golden Age Timeline podcast.
As I mentioned in the last episode, many people have actual addictions to certain negative emotions, and will conjure up thoughts subconsciously that create those emotions. I will go so far as to say we actually create situations—albeit subconsciously in many cases — to generate that particular emotion because we’re addicted to the neuro-chemicals they create in our bodies.
Here’s a simple example some people might relate to, I used to always be late for things that were important to be on time for. That way I’d be sure to fill my body with adrenaline as I raced to get there. I thought I was just disorganized. But it was actually the adrenaline addiction. I wasn’t disorganized in other areas of life. I wasn’t inconsiderate in other areas of life – which is how others viewed me who were left waiting for me to arrive. At least not very often. When I examined both the thoughts and that addiction to adrenaline, I could make new choices. I realized I could apply my organizational skills to getting ready on time. Like putting things by the door that I’d need instead of waiting for the exact moment I’d have to leave to be on time to start getting my bag together. And, deciding to leave 20 minutes early in case there were delays on the way, which there usually were.
And, I thought of other areas of life where I was considerate of other people’s needs and time, so I could do that with lunch meetings with colleagues and friends, and not leave them waiting 20 minutes. At first it was uncomfortable driving at the speed limit, not rushing, just being cool, calm and centered. I wanted more drama. I craved the adrenaline. But when I weighed the pros and cons of the health issues that arose for me due to all the stress… it motivated me to change my thoughts, which led to being peaceful more often, which led to better health, better relationships with others and myself. So, these small inner changes we make can have a big positive domino effect.
Of course you could argue that time is just an illusion or its relative or time is what keeps people in a 3D consciousness. That in higher density levels of consciousness, time doesn’t exist. Or you could say this example is really about a clash between Monochronic and Polychronic cultures. You know, where Monochronic cultures encourages showing respect for other people’s schedules, and where there’s deadlines and is mainly task oriented. Whereas Polychronic cultures is more holistic, flexible, its more about the quality of the interaction than the adherence to time, where it’s more about the context. And those two ways of being are what might be called group MindStories or Egregores. I grew up in a Monochronic culture and had many friends who grew up in Polychronic cultures. And so being on time for meetings or not had different consequences depending on who I was meeting with. My British colleague expected me to be on time and my Mexican colleague was often as late as I was and it was all okay. So, those are places to look for thoughts you believe are true when they are simply part of a greater MindStory you grew up in.
I hope that makes sense. There are literally dozens if not hundreds of these kinds of habits in our lives that could change.
If you’re not sure where to start with that, try the 4-steps I describe here. And for a deeper process, check out our book MindStory Inner Coach that teaches the 5-Step AVARA model – a fill-in-the-blanks process for discovering what kinds of thoughts you are believing that are entrapping you in some way, or disempowering you…and instead giving you a roadmap for getting out of it. See the link in the shownotes or go to GoldenAgeTimeline.com/Shop.
Now let’s differentiate here between physical sensations also sometimes called feelings, and emotions which are neuro-chemical reactions also sometimes called feelings. Both are vibrations.
So being hungry or sick or hot or cold is a physical feeling. That’s a sensation that is involuntary and it starts somewhere in our body and then goes up to our mind. But an emotional feeling that I’m talking about here, is starts with a thought, interpretation or belief and ends up being felt in various parts of the body. Some researchers now say that there are brain cells in our gut, in our heart, in our hands, etc. not just in our brains. But wherever they originate, emotions are created by our interpretations of life which create a sensation in our body and a neurochemical soup.
The reason that your emotions are so important is that they drive your actions which create certain circumstances in your life, for good or for bad. And they’re why we do or don’t do every single thing in our life, because of how we think it will make us feel or not feel. Humans, of course have a variety of emotions that are negative and positive and everything in between. That’s a good thing. It creates contrast and variety, like having a full pallet of colors as an artist. Just as you wouldn’t understand what white is without knowing the color black, you also wouldn’t understand curiosity without knowing indifference, or patience without having experienced impatience.
But, that said, we’re programmed to seek positive emotions and avoid negative emotions. It’s part of our survival brain programming. Seek love and avoid hate. Seek contentment, avoid discontentment. Yet, many of us find ourselves looping on negative emotions and fighting with ourselves about it. That’s where we need to zoom out and see the bigger picture, and ask that age old question, “What is the purpose of life?” Everyone is, of course, entitled to their own opinion on that, but I do find the philosophy you choose on this subject can make a big difference. One answer to that question when I was growing up was — To be happy. I grew up thinking I saw supposed to be happy all the time, and I wasn’t. That meant something was wrong with me. My parents would say – we just want you to be happy. Sometimes I was happy, but a lot of the time I wasn’t. It was never a consistent feeling. Over the years, I came to realize that most people also had that experience…trying to be happy and failing at it. And when you think that way it means any emotion that isn’t like happiness must be banned, which creates a pendulum effect. By banning unhappiness I built it up in my subconscious, in my body. I suppressed it, and so then it grew and became a sensation that owned me. I disowned it, so gave it the power to own me. I remember having that epiphany when I was studying comedy. All the incredibly funny teachers I studied with, who were amazing at bringing joy to others, seemed to have a cloud of depression, despair, and unacknowledged unhappiness around them.
So, another response to the question “What is the purpose of life?” could be …to be human. When I changed to that, everything changed for the better. So, it’s where the goal in life isn’t to be happy all the time. The goal in life is to have the human experience. And with that comes a wide palette of emotions. That gave me the permission to bring a variety of emotions to the forefront, rather than suppress them in some way. People suppress emotions in a variety of ways, I’ve done them all. The 1st one, we fight with them. We have an inner war where one part of the personality is trying to dominate the other, bullying yourself to stop the negative emotions. A 2nd way is an outer war whereby you throw the emotion outside you. You see this in young children, and sometimes adults for that matter. It might look like a temper tantrum, slamming a door, or overdramatizing things. You kind of freak out about things. The 3rd is to disassociate and maybe project it onto someone else. It’s where you might be highly judgmental of someone who is expressing any emotion. But you’re not openly projecting onto them, you hold yourself at arms length, seeing yourself as above them. It’s often an intellectual response to life where you have an aloof indifference to things that would normally cause a human to feel something – good or bad – like the death of a beloved pet, or a winning a big contract you wanted. So a kind of numbness where Life is rather monotone as opposed to animated. The 4th way is escaping the emotion, where you’re trying to dull them down, distract ourselves, so as not feel those sensations and neurochemicals. And that’s the typical addictive behavior, whether it be overeating, drugs, drinking, porn, shopping, shows on TV, overworking, over caffeinating.
All of those responses only have short term benefits, and long term negative consequences. All of them block your desired results in life. A fifth option, which I believe is the natural, healthy human response to life is to accept and digest our feelings. When you don’t properly digest your feelings you tend to get emotional indigestion, which can lead to actual indigestion. Emotions get stuck in the digestive tract, and that’s why so many people who avoid dealing with emotions have digestive issues.
At some point it helps to admit that there’s no way around a negative emotion. The best way is just to go through it and learn how to digest it. And in the digestion process, your system sorts the nutrition from the non-nutritive elements of the emotion and the emotions become fuel for growth. If you don’t digest then you can become malnourished as a human, and become stunted emotionally, which leads to stunting in many areas of life.
So here are 4 steps to digest emotions. The 1st step is to acknowledge them. For example, let’s use worry. I came from a family where you weren’t allowed to worry, or feel afraid. That was looked down on. As a result, we were all in a perpetual state of unprocessed fear. So, you can think about the patterns you grew up with. What were the emotion you weren’t supposed to feel? By acknowledging an emotion you were taught not to experience, it’s like letting a bad child out of their room after them being grounded. You’re allowing this part of you to rejoin the family. You accept this part and give it unconditional understanding and love. Not for it to run amuck and cause a temper tantrum, but to be curious and open to what this emotion has to teach you, what is it’s gift in your life?
The 2nd step, is to find it in your body. For example, I often feel worry in my solar plexus, like a knot in my stomach. You can also add other descriptions like size, weight, color, or even a metaphor or character. With me it feels sort of like the Tasmanian Devil from the Looney Tunes cartoon stuck in a holding cell. Where is it and what is it for you?
Okay. So then the 3rd step is to relax into the emotion. So, it’s like you’re saying “it’s okay, Tazmanian Devil here we are right now, come on out of the cell, be who you are.” It’s part of my human experience. So you’re no longer fighting with it, you’re letting it be. What you resist persists, so when you take away the resistance, it paradoxically lowers the intensity of the emotion.
The 4th step is to accept it until you can see what’s driving it. What are thoughts you are believing that aren’t even true? And turn them around. Sometimes you have to tame the negative emotions to see what untrue thoughts are driving them. So, here’s one situation, the Tasmanian Devil explained what was causing it to spin like a maniac in worry. It was the thought – What if go broke? Now, I didn’t even realize I was thinking that. It was ruminating just below the surface. I’d never gone broke before, but sometimes business was up and sometimes it was down. So, when it was down the Tasmanian Devil would stir up the dirt…because it was believing the thought—What if go broke? Now, what you focus on grows so I needed to nip that one in the bud. So, I replaced it with – business does eventually go up again, historically speaking. What if I do well financially? What things turn around soon? There’s many reasons that could be true…and even I made a list of them. So the untrue thought under examination dissolves away, the negative emotions dissipate, I’m more motivated to do something constructive about the situation…and lo and behold, instead of being in freeze mode…I’m generating new business.
So on top of that you start to see how these thoughts are often not even yours. By yours I mean generating from your true self, your creative source based thinking. Often negative thoughts are implanted from outside. There’s many theories where they come from, other people, you’re just picking up on their thoughts subconsciously or intuitively, subliminal messaging, AI, bad programs you picked up as a child before you had learned proper discernment, some even say they come from past lives or alternate lives or from disembodied beings…or many other sources. But in the end, it doesn’t really matter. All that matters is that you get back sovereignty of your own mind.
And, there’s a way of telling if it’s a true thought or a false thought. Does it empower you? Is it constructive? Is it inherently creative? Then it’s a true thought. You can still have negative thoughts that are empowering, constructive and creative… like saying no to something that’s bad for you. But if the thought seems disempowering, destructive or uncreative… I would say that’s a false thought, not yours… in general. There are exceptions. But, if you discover a thought is false, consider it like malware on your laptop and delete it. Your intention and imagination alone are very powerful in doing this. Of course, there’s many techniques taught on how to delete them, but in the end its all the power of your intention that does it. So have a firm intention.
That said, we do have the MindStory Blueprint program that helps you override 15 of the most common false beliefs people have and the audio course guides you through the process of unchoosing those and instead choosing the empowering, constructive and creative thoughts to help you thrive. Just look for the link in the shownotes or just go to GoldenAgeTimeline.com Shop tab.
At the core of all this is to understand how a MindStory works, also known as an Egregore, or an interweaving pattern of beliefs all rolled up into an operating system that you use to interpret your life. Some are empowering and some are disempowering. The idea is to take back control of your own system of thinking.
There are thousands of individual MindStories that we have, but there’s the group or culture MindStories that I talked about, and there is also a large overall MindStory of humanity. There’s a theory that we, as a collective, have a MindStory operating system we run on for a certain period of time, and then it’s time for an upgrade. It’s like moving from Mojave OS to Big Sur OS on your Mac.
And, some say that now is a time in history for that upgrade. One theory is that we’ve been living in 1000 years of strife and now we’re moving into a 1000 years of peace… the idea behind the Golden Age Timeline. To get there, however, is not an external thing…or it doesn’t start there. It starts on the inside by upgrading your personal MindStory, which then helps upgrade the collective MindStory… and THEN the external changes for the better. This is a theme in the novel, Helio Tropez, if you like epic fantasy novels… available also on the Shop tab at GoldenAgeTimeline.com.
So to get there requires forging ourselves in the fire of wisdom. So, it’s the natural alchemical process we as humans are meant to go through, and so it breaks us free from a pattern of stuckness whereby our system relies on the neurochemicals of negative emotions to function. We now rely on the neuro-chemical balance of positive emotions in our bodies, which help us evolve rather than devolve.
It creates a wholesome system whereby we use fear as fuel, or anger as fuel or grief as fuel or defeat as fuel or whatever is the negative emotion…and it’s needed as the raw material that gets transformed into the next creative reinvention in your life…big or small.
This perspective alone can help you accept, digest and transform negative emotions into fuel for growth…knowing that you stunt your growth if you don’t…knowing that it’s often the storm before the calm. In fact, you can start to trace this…because periods of great creative insights, new ideas, new growth are almost always preceded by darkness, of negative emotions, of challenge and hardship. It’s like you can’t have one without the other. So, the next time you’re going through a hard time, expect that you will soon be coming up the roller coaster ride again and experiencing a upswing in your life. It’s the necessary first step to positive growth. So, the less you resist it, the more you just go with it, the quicker you get there.
Like I said, these steps, are based on the beginning of the 5-Step AVARA model featured in our book, MindStory Inner Coach. It’s a process that’s been honed on over 9000 coaching clients over 23 years through the MindStory Coaching Academy. The AVARA model can help you break free of anything, anytime, anywhere, very quickly.
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